whelp. baby here i am again, kicking dust in the canyon wind....
i mean.
i've really had a hard time dealing with one of the issues in which the headline of this little ditty references. but seeing as the two are so closely related, and i am the definition of one of them, a discussion on the two is fitting in my eyes.
i am one of the most stubborn people i know. i am very set in my ways, i hate change, and i am often accidentally arrogant. granted, i'm often purposely arrogant for the sake of comedy, but that's entirely different. the fact of the matter is, if people can not understand when i'm being sarcastic and being condescending as a joke, then they either need to lighten up or aren't people i want to socialize with. however, not being able to admit when you are wrong is a whole other issue. i've been guilty of it on occasion, but i've also often admitted it and ran away with my tail between my legs. listen, if you debate me on an issue i feel strongly about, i'm either going to talk circles around you, go toe to toe with you, or, on a rare occasion, be put entirely in my place. and that's fine. if the stats stack up against me, then i need to be the adult and admit it.
but what happens when people CAN'T admit when they're wrong?
i know a lot of people like this. 3 of them have been an important part to the summer of oh'11 (rest in pieces). one was an important part of the fall of oh'10, another around sense hours after i was born, and the third, a new comer to my life. each situation is entirely different. the first is someone who was too immature for me to have dealt into my life. i made a mistake there. and the fact that they see no fault in their ways shouldn't be one to surprise me because i'm sure i was a lot like that at their age. hell, i know i was. i never gave a fuck what anybody thought of me, i was me and if you didn't like it, then fuck you. but. i'm still me. only now i'm proud of me and i strive to be the best person i can be. that's where the me back then differs from the me of now. i can admit when i'm wrong cause it's often times in a way in which i need to address my own personal character (ie. not knowing the full information on an issue i feel strongly about, making the wrong moral decision, etc. etc.)
the second person is someone far my superior when it comes to age, education, and wealth. unfortunately, for whatever reason, this person's stubbornness has grown to a level too big for his own house(s). it's fine, he worked hard to get to where he is, but even the highest of higher-ups fuck up, and you see politicians step down for a reason. everybody makes mistakes, and you need to be able to be the bigger person and say "hey, i'm sorry." i've gone months without talking to this person and have always been the one to bring them back into my life, even when i wasn't at fault for what happened. never once have i heard this person say "i was wrong" or "i'm sorry." and they've done some downright BAD things. why? why the ego? why the perpetual need to always be right? it's childish. it makes you look bad to the people who know what's really going on. and that's the whole point to all this, you're stubbornness and inability to admit you're wrong often just makes you look foolish.
finally the third example. this one is one i don't understand at all. this person was one in which i really decided i cared about, but i did so way too early. they lied to me. flat out. they lied about almost everything they said in the first week i knew them. did they ever admit to it? nope, they beat around the bush or ignored the situation. did i get upset and act out of character? absolutely. i was wrong in doing so. see that? i was wrong. admitting it. so when i hear this person say "oh i found out who he really was after." i think, well ya know what? fuck you. you knew who i was cause i was honest to you, you're the one who lied your face off and didn't admit to it. people act out of character when they're angry, that's to be expected. but when you can't act in character in normal situations or see the error in your ways when the anger subsides, then there's a problem.
people do other people wrong all the time. and sometimes all it takes to make things right is a simple "i'm sorry for so and so and so." that's it. but stubbornness and your own egos are way too prevalent in the world today.
listen, chill out, be yourself, be honest, and if you make a mistake, admit to it. it will make so much more sense in the long run. and, in the case of these 3 examples, it won't cut out somebody that is potentially important to their lives.
-jc
currently listening to:
-you and tequila make me crazy -- kenny chesney
-black crosses -- against me!
-cake.
