teaching versus parenting

one would think the two go hand in hand. they dont. ive been figuring this out the past month or so.

i coach youth wrestling, and two of the kids are the kids of my favorite teacher i ever had. he's a stand up guy, a really good person, and a teacher that really cares and gets the job done. his kids are not a reflection of him in any way. his kids dont listen to anything, run around like they own the place, and the older one is old enough to be a legit asshole.

i dont understand how someone who is so tough on their kids and expects so much of them in the classroom can have kids that are the exact opposite. is it cause they're not to an age he is used to or is it just that he loves them too much to come down on them?

parenting is just a weird thing in general though, some parents do nothing to regulate what they do and the kid turns out awful, but sometimes the kid turns out fine. sometimes the parents do too much to protect their kid and the kid might turn out to be awful, or, in my case, completely dispise his parents and the attitudes they have towards everything. but i guess i would think the way you treat your students would be much like how you would treat your kids. especially seeing what he does in the classroom works

now i dont have the courage to walk up to him and tell him 'how can you let your kids act like assholes?' but i want to know if he sees it and what his take is on it. ive talked to him about everything thats ever bothered me except for this, and i wish i could. maybe becuase this isnt personal to me, it is to him, and thats what bothers me? i dont know, but i just dont understand how parenting works. i never want to be a parent because of how my parents turned out, not saying i might not, if im truley in love or some bullshit that wont happen cause of how my luck works, but i just dont get it.

as a parent how do you know when to let your kids do certain things? or when the kid moves out, when do they stop having a bedroom in your house? do you take htier shit out? or hope they take it all out and wait till they do? when does it end up in a box in the attic? i mean eddie dirosa's snowboading ramp got taken down, i noticed that today. i dont talk to eddie as much as i wish i did nowadays, but i wonder if he had a say in that or if his parents just felt it was time.

the world is an interesting...and often times terrifying place

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radio-alkaline trio